That’s a whole new level of trial and error 😂
I don’t have active suspensions but the first (and probably only) thing that comes to my mind would be to stiffen as the vehicle speed increases. The logic is the energy increases with the speed so a given bump requires more high-shaft-speed compression damping when arriving on it faster to avoid hitting the bump stops.
Everything else should stay pretty much the same except maybe a very slight increase in rebound damping, also as a function of vehicle speed, to reduce vertical movements a bit which helps with driver confidence at high speed but also reduces grip/traction so it’s a double-edge sword.
What you absolutely certainly don’t want is stiffen while cornering.
You have to observe the tire and the suspension spring act as series springs: there is one very stiff spring called the tire, and another spring called the suspension spring, and they are on top of each other’s.
The energy goes to the tire which transmits it to the suspension spring.
If you do anything to stiffen the suspension, you are not changing physics: all you do is to transfer more energy to the tire. Imagine the spring is fully rigid (so a bar, not a spring) then 100% of the bump energy is handled by the tire.
The problem with that is the tire is not damped. It’s like an elastic shock, almost all the energy is restituted intact. This is not what you want. You want the energy to be dissipated (turned into heat) by the damper and for that to happen the damper has to move, and to move the spring + hydraulic damping must be softer than the tire. There is nothing to argue here. Make sure the tire is the stiffer spring always, and by a big margin.
If the stiffnesses are equal, so the tire and the spring compresses equally, you are only damping half of the energy, the half that is accumulated in the spring.
The other half (stored in the flexed tire) is going to be restituted and that will make the wheel bounce and reduce the normal force, thus the grip. You don’t want to reduce grip during corners.
There is more to it but in general it’s easy to get lost in settings with adjustable suspensions. The trap is to optimize by feel and for a particular corner. Chances are that the whole car is way off sooner than you think, even for that corner.
Just remember that when you stiffen, all you do is put more load on the tire. They will heat up more, the rubber will melt/overheat (at the contact point under load) and the wear pattern will be ugly. “More camber” is the usual response but the solution is less spring / less hydraulics and to let the energy reach and be absorbed by the damper!
Also, don’t get confused by weight transfer: the suspension stiffness has no effect on it. The only ways to reduce weight transfer are to lower the center of mass, or widen the track, or both, which is what race cars do: a physical modification of the geometric relationship between the center of mass and the contact points with the road. Touring cars and F1 don’t roll much but it’s because their center of mass is below the wheel’s axis.
One final thought is you need to consider the car as the reference frame. The car is not really moving, due to its mass relative to the unsprung masses. Only consider a tiny instant of time when the car drives on a tiny dip, sa a couple of cm or one inch. Due to inertia, the car stands still in the air and the springs pushes the wheels against the ground. The more rebound damping the less the springs can push, the less traction as the load on the tires lessens. On cars with proper suspension (most road cars) the wheels just go down the dip and the car practically does not move vertically. With too much rebound damping (literally all tweaked Subarus) the dampers don’t extend and the whole car falls into the dip. Watch for it next time you see one. For bumps it’s the same thing, only in reverse: normal suspensions the wheels move up, and the chassis stay more or less immobile vertically. Too much spring or too much hydraulics and the energy is split between the tire and the chassis. The whole car moves up. Of course this upward movement eventually unloads the tires, and when that happens the traction is lost for an long time as those suspensions invariably have too much rebound damping too.
Keep in mind that the only role of the suspension is to keep the tires on the ground with an as steady as possible load. During corners the dampers must be loaded and must continue to damp the small variations that occurs. If the dampers are too stiff the tires do the work, and all tires know to do in the vertical axis is bounce.