With the right light bar you wouldn't need your high beams as well, right?
I would wire it up to the fog light circuit if possible, there is a convenient in-cabin stock switch! You could even run a relay off the Fog light bulb circuit because the trigger side of the relay wouldn't be drawing any extra amps. That wouldn't technically satisfy the law but our stock headlights don't actually add any extra lumens when you switch from low to high beams. the projectors just emit light in a different direction (to over simplify it).
with a base of knowledge in computers and controls systems it would *probably* be pretty straight forward to listen to the canbus and output a signal for the low/high beams but you would still need a custom microcontroller like
@ControlNode said... If it hasn't been done before it would be a serious hassle... but you could sell them after you make it!! =] i'd buy one
It is worth checking the focus ST and vanilla focus forums as well, there are a LOT more of those owners and MAYBE one of them has solved this problem already!
I want to do something like this eventually but currently my car is too new. The idea of drilling holes in it still gives me anxiety.